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What to Do When Your Sex Life Sucks

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Do This To Feel More Connected To Your Partner During Sex

 

 

 

 

Open your Eyes

Eye gaze and invite your partner to look at you as much and as often as you can both daily, before, during, and after sex.

 

Use a wide-angle mental focus

Enjoy every inch of your body and your partner’s body.  Take it all in.

Rather than allowing your focus to go straight to the sexual excitement you are feeling, keep opening your focus to all parts of your body and sensations and your partner’s body.  This wide angle focus will narrow frequently.  It is a skill to practice directing your attention outward.  Your sexual excitement will keep pulling your focus inward.

 

Have sex with a partner who you can share emotions with safely

If you can’t do this, it isn’t likely you will be able to open your eyes during sex and to keep a wide angle unhurried focus.

 

Avoid these words (in your thoughts or out loud)

Performance

Satisfaction, Satisfy

Hot

Dirty Talk

 

Use these words (in your thoughts or out loud)

Enjoyment, Enjoy

Be with, being with

I want to see you

Invitation to “look at me”

Compliments, sweet somethings/nothings

Gratitude

 

Let climax surprise you

Don’t force it or drive it or fake it until you make it.  Instead, focus on enjoyment.  “I’m here to enjoy the moment, enjoy you, and enjoy my body."  When you enter full mind and body pleasure (instead of focusing on sexual excitement) your ability to climax will build without striving or frantic attempts to get aroused enough.

 

 

 

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